(the misadventures of an expatriate corporate dropout)

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

had a brief discussion this morning concerning the quote I have up from Madame de Staël...

like I'm some expert (not) but it does ring true.  how men think just being there conveys desire and women bemoan their man never expresses love, desire etc. anymore ...So much one reads or hears about differences between men and women and blah blah blah ... wait a minute ... I don't want to write about Mars vs. Venus ... or even think about it any more.

but I can say that it seems to be my fate to desire those who don't seem to possess the same level of desire as me... and to be desired by those whom I feel little for ... ah cruel fate and unkind destiny ... each time I vow I am done with desire and men in general and yet ... find myself returned to the palace of longing.

j'envie l'envie ... zut.

it does seem women are more fully content with the knowledge that someone loves and desires them ... once this knowledge dissipates, angst sets in.  whereas men are about the chase.  the prize.  

back to your regular programming.

10 comments:

Mrs C said...

OK. I've written a comment, erased, written and erased and I've come to the conclusion that I'm not sure what to say.

I guess all I can say is that I'm listening.

Non Je Ne Regrette Rien said...

mrs c ~ cou cou! you're there! ha. well, what can I say except l'amour n'existe pas pour moi ... c'est ma vie... il faut que moi accepte ... zut.

La Framéricaine said...

When I met my husband, I told him that I was interested in marrying him because he had already had the shit beat out of him in his first marriage and, thus, had substantially lower expectations... There was really nowhere to go but inward and up. I don't have a romantic bone in my body, nor a hormone, now that I think of it. Consequently, I feel somewhat less at the mercy of my "desires."

Bonne continuation, ma chère,

Mignonne said...
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Non Je Ne Regrette Rien said...

well my latest 'find' has had a similar experience related to marriage. but that has inspired him in the exact opposite direction ... le sigh. I'm not necessarily romantic, ma cherie, a hardened cynic is more like it... but I harbor a multitude of desires.

Mrs C said...

Ah... mais tout le monde a le droit de se sentir aimer. Il faut être patiente. Ce qui est certain, et que tout change. Tout. Donc, espoir!

Cliché, I know. Must be the happy pills.

Kathleen said...

Here's one for you:

"There is time for work. And time for love. That leaves no other time."

Coco Chanel

Non Je Ne Regrette Rien said...

mrs c-can I borrow your pill bottle?

K-well, i've responded and deleted a 1,000 times. I'm just sad. sad that loving me is so f'g difficult. work though, is apparently easy-peasy. got that one down.

Notre Vie Juteuse said...

not all men are only about the chase or feel that just by just being there conveys desire.

Mignonne said...

meh, you're right just 99.9% of them.